This month’s upcoming Confidence Conversation on Confident Mobile Makeup with Tracilee Messina reminded me of this old gem and the importance of looking good to feel confident!

A few pounds and a few stylists later – see the difference it can make.  Wow.  It’s utterly amazing to see the celebrities who we assume are born beautiful, when in truth, they could look just like us.  It’s what money and fame brings by seeing yourself on screen or in print – a consciousness that can’t be ignored. Unlike my own quick glances in the mirror that don’t allow me to acknowledge more than I have eye makeup in the right places, it’s easy to let myself go into a state of frumpy denial.  Denying that I’m not looking my best or perhaps I look ‘good enough’.

Hmm…I hate that term “good enough”.  What does it really mean?  Good enough that my husband doesn’t leave me? Good enough that my kids aren’t embarrassed to introduce me to their friends? Good enough in case there is a cute produce guy in the market? Good enough since the chances are so slim that I’ll get unexpectedly photo’d by the press or interviewed by the local news station?  Hey, at least I have clean underwear on – you know, just in case…as if that is more likely AND more important than my outward looks.  For crying out loud, what the hell have we been telling ourselves and our children?  If you’re in an accident, the handsome doctor will not marry you if you have dirty underwear but heck, don’t worry about your wrinkled clothes or matted hair!

So, here’s another wake-up call.  Rather than take solace in the fact that celebrities can look like us without the help of their trainers, chefs, and stylists, consider that we can at least try to look our best – even if that means drugstore cosmetics and generic shampoo Looking good is empowering- in fact, it can be liberating and some say the ultimate revenge. It’s one of the few things we can control and actually do something good for ourselves and our confidence.  So buck up – spend a little time on your looks…don’t let things go untended.  People do notice, including you – even if you aren’t being featured in People.  And you never know…there just might be a hot gas attendant wondering if you are some lesser known celeb.  I don’t know about you but that would certainly pump up my confidence!

 Thanks to People magazine for the photos and inspiration!


Alyssa Dver
Cheif Confidence Officer

American Confidence Institute